03:58 Jul 14 2019
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I was supposed to go to an open house today, but I just could not muster the will power to do it. Between it being so hot, muggy, being uncomfortable. There is just so much to unpack with all of that. And now I can get to what I really wanted to spew..
If it takes a village to raise a child, then shouldn't it take a village to end the destruction? turmoil? toxicity? of it as well?
There are always people who are going to cause conflict in society. Some people can't live without it. They need it like they need a fix. It's their addiction. It's how they survive in a world where they are just another bag of fleshy bits.
Who is to blame, the people causing the conflicts or the people not taking the steps in order to change it?
I used to blame, I use blame loosely, the people who caused it. Now, I don't blame them. I blame the ones who let it happen after multiple years of it being the same from the same individuals. The community, the individuals who form it, have let it get to what it has become.
Countless times people have made comments along the lines of 'it's changed', 'it's not the same', 'people just want to start drama'.
Why wouldn't they?
They haven't been given any reasons to change their behavior. They are getting positive honor, positions in societies, pats on the back and all the reinforcements. Most importantly they are getting friendship, trust and some semblance of loyalty. No matter how many times they have shared information publicly, said horrible things in a journal or comments(sometimes about a person or their family), flat out lied, brought those into things they had no part of, shattered trust, so on and so forth, they keep getting taken back into peoples life to do these things over and over again.
Shouldn't you as a person hold yourself in higher regard than that?
Should you be shocked when it happens to you after you've watched the same situation play out with numerous others?
It is hard to maintain respect for those that one minute state how much they hate drama and they want things to change and then the next minute be up in the offending parties space offering them praise, friendship, etc.
The same goes for those that want to play both sides of the coin or be a 'double agent'. You are friends with both parties. You know that one party is in the wrong, however, you don't stand up and say it. Instead, you relay messages about what that person said about the other person. That isn't friendship. That is being shady.
You cannot blame the overseers for the problems you allow yourself to be tangled in multiple times. You cannot blame headsman since he doesn't want the them involved in personal disputes. You cannot blame the person with whom the dispute is with because you have once again let them into your life and your space. You cannot be a victim if you allow yourself to be one time and time again.
I don't expect people to get it. I expect the 'she's being uppity' or 'there she goes running her mouth again'. And that's fine because those are the ones I don't expect to get it. Really, it's just ramblings. In the end, it doesn't matter because if it did, things would be different.
I don't see it being different. Those that claim changed, haven't. Those that want change, won't take the steps to make it happen.
It will always be an endless cycle of the same.
COMMENTS
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ZombieMLegendre
19:31 Jul 21 2019
I did/do still like to see funny comments left in Honor logs. Morrigon is brilliant at that. Personally, I have yet to ever give out negative honor to anyone. I prefer to give honor to make people happy. Yeah, the naysayers will scream, "It's just a number on a social site!" True as that may be, it might brighten someone's day. And that's pretty cool.
LORDMOGY
20:05 Jul 21 2019
MooniePie
20:47 Jul 21 2019
I've given out both positive and negative honor over the years. I much prefer to give out positive, but that can't always be the case when you have people that act dishonorably.
Dakotah
20:49 Jul 21 2019
All the feature's we have been gifted by Cancer, what I miss on VR is/was the humor this site had when I first started. I said it many times and still will, the Vamp Box, the post you, Cancer and others had, kept me laughing. The Monkeys. Cancer when he would posts some of the off the wall messages he would get and his response in his journal. I wish all that could be brought back to VR. Funniest post I saved was from you Moonie when I was joking with Erinyes about recruiting hookers and your reply. I miss the Vamp Box being where it use to be due to I forget it's even here on the site because of where it is now. Change is good sometimes, I do like 2.0 for the most part, I just miss some things and I guess more so, I miss the community that was here when I started. Not a day would go by when I would log in I would not laugh over something that group did. It made me want to be a part of this site.
ZombieMLegendre
20:57 Jul 21 2019
Noted, Moonie.